This is Part 1 in a 5-Part Series of Blogs where I’ll share what I’m trying to let go of and I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Be sure to comment below…
This question just made me think of the Boyz To Men song “It’s So Hard To Say Goodbye“. The lyrics and the singing style really show emotion and pain… especially when it comes to the difficulty of letting go of things that aren’t meant for us.
It’s so very hard… but it isn’t impossible, and many times you’ll feel a quick sense of relief.
Relief might be short-lived because you can pretty much apply the same stages of grieving to consciously making the DECISION to let something go.
Take it from me, I’ve had to let go of a lot of things in my personal life, as well as in my career. Many of these decisions left me gutted and really sad, insecure, and wondering if I made the right decision.
So then I had to ask myself… what will I gain, if I let (fill in the blank) go? I have experience with all of these and wanted to offer my thoughts and some hope if you are trying to decide what to let go of in your life…
NOTE: I started this blog before the pandemic COVID-19 hit… and it seems even more appropriate now. I hope that when you read this you find hope and a different outlook during these uncertain times.
Here are some of the things you might not even realize you’re holding onto:
- A Negative Mindset
- A Toxic Relationship(s)
- The Need To Control
- Fear (False Evidences Appearing Real)
- Self-Sabotaging Behaviors
I’m choosing these because I have direct and relatable experience with these, but I encourage you to come up with your own list! These also apply to my professional life and can really interfere with my business (and yours too if you’re anything like me)… so keep that in mind!
A Negative Mindset
Negative attitudes and feelings of helplessness and hopelessness can create chronic stress, which upsets the body's hormone balance, depletes the brain chemicals required for happiness, and damages the immune system.
Negative thoughts can literally paralyze me. I can get into a pattern of negative thinking that usually starts with me being mean to… well… me! I can get wrapped up in negative thoughts and am unable to concentrate on anything else.
Years ago I began studying the practice of mindfulness and it has truly helped with negative thinking. I learned how to reframe my thinking and turning negative thoughts into gratitude statements. I really feel that joy and gratitude are the antecdotes to fear. And F E A R is what we are feeling now… don’t you think? So how do you get rid of negative thoughts? Well, I’m glad you asked.
Here are some ways to reframe your negative thinking:
- Help Someone Else
- For Every Negative Thought Come Up with a Positive
- Be Mindful and be fully present in THIS moment
- Do A Brain Dump (aka write down negative thoughts and put them in a box or burn them! more on this later…)
- Get Outside
What are you doing now that your future self with thank you for? Do you at least have a desire to live a more positive lifestyle and stop negative thinking? Are you ready to give up or walk away from toxic relationships in your life? If so… stay tuned for my next blog!
2 thoughts on “Letting Go: What Will You Gain?”
Thank you for that Aimee. Great advice and well written.
My downfall is putting it all into practice. I am getting better at it though.
Thanks for sharing Chris. I like your honesty and that you could relate to my struggle! I appreciate your response and remember it is good to practice… no one is perfect at retraining their minds 🙂